Masculinity & Femininity in the Home

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Masculinity & Femininity in the Home

September 19, 2021

This week Bryce and I continue to walk through biblical masculinity and femininity. We move first, after defining our terms two weeks ago, to the home. The home is the foundational unit for all of society. For the church, businesses, civil government, all of society. So, we plant our anchor in the home where men and women have specific roles they play out, without which all of society will collapse. Tune in this week to see what God's word has to tell us about how men and women act in a home.

Key Texts: Ephesians 5:22-33, 6:1-4 ; Colossians 3:18-25 ; 1 Peter 3:1-7

Resources :

* Masculine Christianity by Zach Garris

* The Household and the War for the Cosmos by C.R Wiley

* Article by Zach Garris (https://knowingscripture.com/articles/the-womans-desire-and-the-mans-rule-genesis-3-16)

* Blog by Doug Wilson (https://dougwils.com/books-and-culture/s7-engaging-the-culture/masculinity-without-permission.html)

My guest joining me this week on the Sunday series is my brother Bryce. Bryce is getting his undergraduate degree in philosophy and hopes to get his MDiv. from a seminary after he completes his undergrad. He hopes to be a pastor shepherding Gods people one day.

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Transcript

Don't think I will even ask you to make Jesus Lord of your life. That's the most preposterous thing I could ever tell you to do. Jesus Christ is Lord of your life.

Whether you serve him or not, whether you bless him, curse him, hate him, or love him, he is the Lord of your life.

(music) Welcome to the For The King podcast, wherever you guys are tuning in from. Appreciate you guys listening in.

We talked about last week starting a series on biblical masculinity, femininity. We defined that last week. Well, I guess it would be two weeks ago now since I missed last week.

Sorry about that. Been very busy trying to make a better habit of doing each week because I said I do each week. You're actually just a victim.

So I'm a victim. I'm a victim. Yeah.

And it just, life got me. I couldn't have overcame it even if I wanted to. So yeah, sorry about that guys.

Please forgive me. I'm going to try to make sure to be more faithful to every single Sunday. So please forgive that.

And also, hope you really just enjoyed that new intro. That was Paul Washer, a pastor that Bryce and I really like. And he knows the word of God very well and glorifies God in his sermons and in the way he preaches.

So we really like him and hopefully that was encouraging to hear that. And you guys liked the little beat and stuff. My friend Luke made that for me.

So you guys can thank Luke or whatever. Put a comment that Luke did a good job. Cool.

So yeah, we're going to continue this series on biblical masculinity and femininity. And now we're going to start in the home. We're going to talk about what the scriptures and what God himself has laid out for men and women and how they ought to act in a home, in a setting, in a household.

And it's not just you have to be in the confines of your house to act that way. When we say that this is how you act in the home, as in this is how you act in a family unit. So you would act the same way if you're on a road trip somewhere.

It doesn't have to be at your normal house. You act like this at church. You act like this everywhere you go.

This is not principles for when you're by yourself with your family. You should put this on display even for everybody that would see you. Yeah.

Well, I forgot. I forgot my intro. I know.

Mark 15 to impilot ask Jesus. Sorry, I totally forgot about that. Well, I did the other cool intro with the new music and stuff.

Okay. So you were going to bring up that quote. Yeah.

This comes from Zachary Garrison's book, Massey and Christianity who Rocky interviewed three weeks ago now. So yeah, probably almost. And in chapter seven, it's on masculine authority and how it starts in the home.

He says this opening it up. Government is oppressive. The church is weak and the schools are failing.

But at the end of the day, all of this starts in the home. The family is the cornerstone of civilization. Great quote by Brother Zachary.

Exactly. That's why me and Rocky are beginning. Right.

He's brought up its masculine Christianity. Patriarchy starts in the home. It leads out into the church and also into civilization.

That's the order that we're going in. Yep. And that's how everything is built.

The church is made up of families all encompassing the family of God. And then civil society should be made up of a bunch of churches, local churches that are proclaiming the good news. And then the civil society isn't being informed by the principles from scripture and their laws and the way they govern and the way they do these things.

That's what the civil magistrate should do. So all of it is derived ultimately from God's word, what he's told us. But then first the family, families make up the church and then churches make up, obviously should be the bulwark.

Right. And local settings all over whatever nation the church is in. That's not a saying that family has the highest authority over these things.

Exactly. Yeah. This is just one sphere.

Yeah. One sphere. Yeah.

And it has its own realm that it sticks to. The sacraments, you know, baptism and the Lord's Supper. That's for the church and bearing the sword.

And that's nice. Bryce just pulled a fishing lure out of his pocket and, you know, bearing the sword for justice in the society is God, a God-given authority for the civil magistrate. The church does not.

There's church discipline, but they don't discipline in the sense where they throw people in jail. There's no, they don't bear the sword in that sense. And the family doesn't bear the sword, but you discipline your children.

So we bear the rod. Yeah, exactly. Okay.

So that's setting the stage. Anything missed? You want to clean up anything? No, very, very beautiful. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful.

Okay. Feminine. No, no, no.

Why is that? Did you not hear how deep my voice was when I was saying that? And my wrists were very tight the whole time. They weren't limp. All right.

Let's get into it now. Right. That might be a downfall of masculinity.

Okay. Yeah. Okay.

I had somebody say they've been listening to the podcast and they didn't exactly like that. Bryce and I talk about masculinity in the physical way, but there is a sense in which having limp wrists and not being rigid and strong will not make you as strong of a man, obviously. That's more the point there.

You don't have to always walk around. We're more using hyperbole to be funny. It's a joke, but you should not have limp wrists in general, but you don't have to walk around completely tight all the time and flexing.

We're not, we're not meaning that. Okay. Spiritually, you should be flexed all the 24/7 with the armor of God with your hand on the hilt of the sword of the spirit at any moment ready to swipe one of Satan's arrows, his darts flaming at you.

Notice how Satan's flaming feminine or what is it? Flamer. Yeah, that's what it is. Okay.

So let's, let's get into it. Ephesians chapter five. We're going to start in verse 22 and go to, you know, six verse four.

You know, I can just read that. Sound good. What? Yeah.

Yeah. And also we'll just, you can stop me Bryce if you want to provide commentary or I can just read the whole thing through. All right.

So starting in verse 22, chapter five, Ephesians wives submit to your own husbands as to the Lord for the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, his body and is himself its savior. Now, as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit everything to their husbands. Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her that he might sanctify her having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word so that he might present the church to himself and splendor without spot or wrinkle or any such thing that she might be holy and without blemish in the same way husband should love their wives as their own bodies.

He who loves his wife loves himself for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it just as Christ does the church because we are members of his body. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is profound and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Okay, so I'll stop there and then I'll read the last part of chapter, the first part of chapter six and a second. But big points to take away from there.

We see Paul continually likening this relationship between the husband and wife between Christ and the church. Church is the bride, Jesus is the husband and we see that being rooted over and over again. That's that remember that transcends culture.

Everything he just said transcends culture and this is not something unique to ancient Palestine or whatever. So yeah, I want to say that. What do you want to say? I keep going.

Another point that I want to make on top of the Christ and the church as the husband loves his wife. Is that we see how this plays out in the home with the direct commands and it applies to every situation. It's not a it's not qualifying it in certain situations.

The wife submits to the husband or in certain situations. The wife respects the husband or in certain situations. The man loves his wife or in certain situation.

The man will die for his wife. All of those which are very high callings and very hard to do these aren't easy tasks. Can you please these are very hard tasks to do apart from the Holy Spirit.

They're literally impossible to do these. Well, you have to have the Spirit of God to for a wife to respect and submit to her husband and for the husband to love and to die for his wife. You have to have the Spirit of God to do that.

And so I want to make that point. This is not situational ethics. This is this is for every moment of every day.

No matter where you are. This is how a husband and a wife ought to interact with one another. Right.

Well and even notice too it says submit to your husband as unto the Lord. And what does this mean? How did they how do they submit unto the Lord? Well the Lord issues good uplifting and gracious commands that is followed. So the imagery that's already being painted is that this comes with the assumption that the husband is in fact issuing good gracious and commands that aren't oppressive.

Logical rational loving commands. Right. So like obviously when we need to overemphasize the aspect of of submit to them and everything as unto the Lord.

But at the same time Paul clearly isn't making a case that if the husband is issuing sin that it is to be disobeyed. Yeah. Thank you.

Thank you for saying that. Yeah. Easily disobeyed.

Exactly. It's because you have the same relation that is supposed to be occurring. The husband is supposed to be loving the wife in the same way that Christ loves us by.

And one of those the ways that's played out is in what they say. Right. The husband is to be listened to but the husband is not to be in burden to his wife.

Exactly. And you even see that later on. What does Christ do.

He adorns the bride. He sanctifies the bride. He dies for the he gives her everything.

Exactly. And that's the idea of what the the male authority is supposed to do. It's not supposed to be something that is oppressive.

And even in spite of the feminist culture that's saying down with the patriarchy. They're saying down with the patriarchy by noticing the bad aspects of it where it isn't played out. Yeah.

How it should be. But that doesn't mean that the whole patriarch will see exactly is to be thrown out. That's throwing the baby out with the bathwater.

Yeah. So there is good godly authority. Good godly Patriot patriarchalism.

Yeah. But it's supposed to be done in an ordered way in Christ's manner. Yeah.

Is him as the forerunner. We follow his he is the the best patriarch. Right.

He loves his bride perfectly. Right. And she never ever is well obviously because of her sin.

We would oppose him but but nothing it's nothing on his end is causing us to oppose him. Jesus is perfect in alluring and loving. It's it's on our end that we would not give ourselves over to him.

Exactly. And a wife that is with a husband that truly loves her and does and plays this out. She will be more than happy to submit to him just like we're more than happy to submit to Christ when we put to death our sin and realize that his ways are better.

Right. And it's different. It doesn't it's not a perfect overlap because husbands are supposed to play out that role.

But the difference is the husband the husband actually isn't Christ. So Jesus literally is never wrong. Sometimes the husband will be wrong but for the sake of honoring Christ the wife is supposed to submit anyways even though the husband may be wrong.

Now to Bryce's point it does not include when the husband is asking her to sin. But if he's just wrong on a very like a trivial decision like are we going to take this road. I think the back roads going to be quicker tonight because there might be traffic.

The wife says oh there's actually there's not traffic. I was just there. I just saw my way home.

There was nothing and he says well let's go this way and he could very well be wrong. But that's that's you know. Yeah, that's not a sinful thing if he asks her to submit to him in that moment obviously she should.

Right. But if he is obviously asking her to sin that's when she she ought not to obviously and that's because it's not a perfect overlap analogy but we're supposed to follow Christ and play that out. Right.

Good. Yeah. Okay good.

Okay good. Okay, let's move on. No, no good.

What happened? Okay, so now let's go to Colossians. Oh wait. Oh, oh, I'm stupid.

I forgot about the first part of six. I'm so sorry guys now start of Ephesians six children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right honor your father and mother. This is the first commitment with a promise that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land fathers do not provoke your children anger but bring them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Okay, and this is building off of exactly what was just mentioned. You have the established hierarchy with the patriarch at the top and this doesn't have anything to do with value. Everything I'm saying has nothing to do with value or dignity.

This just simply has to do with authority. Yeah, simply that's merely what I'm talking about. The husband has the is the pinnacle of the hierarchy then it goes to life and then the children are after that.

That's the exact flow that Paul is bringing up right now. The children are to obey the parents right in the Lord for this is right and then it says honor your father and your mother. Exactly.

So the father that the wife does have legitimate authority and she has legitimate authority over the children. Yeah, right even over the home as we'll probably get into later on. Yeah.

In terms of like the actual home itself but but that doesn't exclude the husband's preeminent authority over the whole family. Exactly. The husband's the paragon of a top the top of it the top of the hierarchy and that's that's where you get patriarch front.

Pater being a being a yeah it's Greek for father and then yeah arc being authority. So he's the way I'm getting that wrong. So authority it's like to it.

Just give it up to us. Give it up essentially. That's what it is.

It's it's rule. Sorry. There it is.

Arc is rule. It's father rule. That's that's oh there it is.

Yeah, you're right. You're right. It's father rule.

Okay. Patriarch means yeah, so he's the patriarch of the family is a rule of the family. Yeah, simply.

Yeah, good. Also another quick thing to note the children are also given a command children ought to honor their mother and their father. This is another command given to members of the household, but we're specifically talking about biblical masculinity and femininity.

So we're more going to speak to how the father and the mother ought to interact with the kids. The kids are supposed to honor the mother and father. The fathers are specifically because they're the leader and men are obviously usually a little more harsh and brash than women are are not to provoke their children to anger because men are prone to doing this and being you know, whatever like because they're so men are hard.

There's a wall and children want to do what they want to do. So when you know, you butt up against dad, you know, that can be tough. So yeah, we're supposed to as men fathers masculinity, you're supposed to instruct your kids and yes, I forget which proverb it is, but you're not supposed to spare the rod.

You are supposed to discipline your kids and sometimes that does take physical harm to the child. Obviously you shouldn't you shouldn't be like permanently hurting your kid. That would be stupid.

That would be foolish, but there is wisdom in hurting your kid for a time. Just like if somebody's being a boy, if you punch them one time in their face, you know, they're not gonna they're not gonna be permanently hurt from that, but they're gonna get the message that you're being you're being dumb. So when you spank your kids, that's not evil or bad.

Our society would say that that's like child abuse, but it's really not. It can definitely be child abuse. Yeah, I mean it can turn into that, but just spanking in general another another thing in our culture where we throw thrown out the baby with the bathwater just because spanking can be obviously you can go too far.

With it and literally like physically harm your kid like some some dads. I you know, they'll put their cigarette out on the kid and burn them permanently where there's a scar there. That's not discipline.

That's tyranny and evil and that's that's a that's a very evil man. They'll do something like that. You're not supposed to put your cigarette out on your kids skin, but you should make the buy if they're being ridiculous.

Yeah, and the problems. Yeah, like you said, they attest that if you spare the rod from your child, you hate them. You literally hate them.

You're hating your kid. So it's not an act of love. It's not you exercising your authority properly over them.

Exactly. And also one way that you discipline them that Greek words pydaea. It also has the implication of the way that you teach them.

Yeah, and that's what discipline is. That's why we have the word disciple, right? They're kind of also off the same route. Yeah, you discipline in discipleship discipline doesn't just always mean you spank your child.

It also means you teach your child. Yeah, and here's one other way that our culture. Has capitulated on this father's if you send your children to a pagan public school system, you're subverting your own authority by giving them to another's authority.

Exactly. So don't subvert your own authority. You have the God given.

I don't want to say right, but I'd rather say responsibility, which is something that you must do. You have the God given responsibility to raise up your children and the discipline and instruction of the Lord. You can't do that when you subvert your own authority by sending them to a pagan.

Like like Vodie Baucom says, don't be surprised if you send your kids off to Caesar and they come back. Yeah, it's very unmanly to send your kids and in a sense it really is. It's unmanly to send your kids to another authority.

Now, there's a sense in which for a night a kid can go spend the night. Your kid can go spend the night at someone's house or whatever and now their dad's going to be, you know, if your kid's acting up, you can say, alright, if they're acting up, but you delegate the authority. But you don't, you're not giving it up.

You do give it up when you send them to public school. Right and that's like sending your kid to a concentration camp. That place is so wicked and evil.

There's Proverbs 1320, whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of full suffers harm. Yeah, all it does is it breeds stupidity, arrogance, pride. Exactly.

Bryce and I were in the public school system. So we definitely have firsthand experience of all that and yes, that stuff happens. Okay, let's move on so we can get through all this.

Colossians chapter 3, we're going to do 18 to 25. Wives submit to your husbands as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

Children obey your parents and everything for this please is the Lord. Fathers do not provoke your children unless they become discouraged. Bond servants obey, actually we'll end there.

I'm sorry. Sorry, we'll end there at 21. But yeah, we see just real quick.

He moves on to bond servants and people that have masters, but that's not the what we're laboring to do here. We're just talking about in the home and just real quick imperatives like one sentence. Wives submit to your husbands.

It's fitting husbands love your wives. Don't be harsh with them. Children obey your parents.

Father don't don't provoke your kids to not obey you and to be discouraged. This is like a it is it's like it's a feedback loop loop of love. I'm being a little ridiculous there.

But yeah, it's supposed to if all these things are working well, if you're not if you're not being harsh with your wife, she's not going to be prone to disrespect you because you're loving her. So she's going to want to respect you and if she's respecting you, you're going to want to love her and if you're teaching your kids and loving your kids, then they're not going to want to be disrespectful towards you, which is not going to make you provoke them. And when they get angry at you and then you're like you're being stupid and you're all this stuff and then you blow up at your kids.

It's this God knows what's best. So sometimes you just got to take the hit and love your wife anyway, maybe to earn some of that respect, you know, and same thing with to the ladies. Sometimes you just need to respect your husband even though when he's being stupid and and that should win him over and well, that's in First Peter.

You can win over your husband obviously with with doing those kind of godly things as a woman and same thing with the kids, you know, just honor your parents anyways and then it'll make it easier for them. And then maybe they won't ask so many hard things of you anymore because you actually learn and show that you've matured. But even even still if you do do it, do do it.

And they still are not willing to offer you what is your God given responsibility and right that still does not give you any sort of license to not fulfill your vows. Exactly. Your covenant agreement between the person.

Exactly. So children if we are loving our parents and they were expecting them or submitting ourselves under them and even still they're very wicked and cruel with us that doesn't give you a license to expect them into exactly pretty much active. You turn the other cheek.

That is a situation where Jesus is speaking to turn the other cheek. Right. And and I've heard it said this way.

We often our culture have the ideology that it's 50 percent 50 percent. You guys are both kind of in it and people are like, no, it's a hundred percent. A hundred percent.

You guys both put in your hundred. Yeah. And that's not biblical either.

What's biblical is a hundred zero. Even if the person puts in absolutely zero percent of the effort that does not give you any sort of right or license to not fulfill your covenant agreement that you've made with that person. You are to love them.

You are to serve them. Think about Jose. The book of Jose.

He marries a whore and she goes off and she's committing adultery. But who's a continues to love her. And this is a display that even though they commit zero, they have zero commitment to it.

You still offer your end of the bargain. Exactly. Really good point.

Yeah, really good point. Okay. Last text we want to get to real quick things to allude to.

Yeah, there's some stuff in first Corinthians about marriage that not it was kind of peripheral to what we're talking about. First Timothy chapter 2 verse 15 talks about a woman's role in childbearing. And how important that is for a woman.

So that's going to be in terms of femininity. It's very important for women to have kids. Their bodies are made to give life.

Eve is the life giver. Women are made to bring life and then to nurture that life to see it to full maturity. So that's a very important ministry for women that so many feminists now spit on and say put off having kids.

You need to go into corporate America. You need to try to make six figures and you need to you don't need no man. You need to just just go and work your butt off.

When you're made that you're literally designed and made to have kids. Let's put that off and then if you comes around to it then you should do it. It's like.

Because our bodies are designed to do it. It would be like holding in a bowel movement. Your body's designed to pass waste.

It'd be like holding that in and saying I'll put it off to later when your body's designed to do something. Obviously, that's not a perfect analogy. So if something breaks down there, you can send me an email or whatever.

Something probably broke down there. But that's going to my analogy I'm rolling with. I came up with it on the spot.

But what broke down was the molecular nature of the food that you ate. Oh, that's true. Yeah.

So I don't know that that's kind of my little spiel there though. Like women are designed for that and it's very important for them to have kids. It's a it's a huge ministry for them and it's literally one of the coolest things that humans can do which is give birth to kids and you know men don't really play a really huge part with it.

They play a huge part in and discipline the kids are bringing them up. But in terms of like creating a kid, you know, women do most of that obviously. What that bleeds off into is the role of man and woman.

Man and woman. And what that role is is that they they both work but the way in which the woman works is not culturally acceptable in our day. Yeah.

Like my wife doesn't work at a physical location and a job that she goes to to where she earns a biweekly wage. And it was funny. She told me one day that her friend was talking with somebody and they're like, oh, Juliana hasn't found a job yet and like said it in a very kind of attitude.

And it's funny. It's like, no, she does have a job. She does work.

Like whenever I talk to if I talk to some of my co-workers and they ask what Juliana does and I say, oh, she she works at home. Yeah. And they're taken back by that because they don't recognize the God-given role given to a woman that she works at home.

Yeah. It's not that you're not working. So it's not some Victorian style home where, you know, like like Pride and Prejudice.

Mr. Bennett is kind of, you know, doing everything within the home. He's kind of exercising his authority and all the administration and Mrs. Bennett is just running off trying to get. Her daughter's married and she reads books all day.

She's getting drunk, yada, yada, yada. That's not how it looks. That's not she's not working.

She's not doing anything. Yeah, just growing fat and doing nothing. Yeah, right.

So it's legitimate work in the home and that's what you see in Proverbs 31. Yep, right. The woman is she's going to the harbor.

She's she's selling things, buying things. She's her arms are strong. She does a lot of labor in the home.

Exactly. Yeah, and her her husband prides with her for it. And I think it's just to speak to your point.

It's the almighty dollar. We put so much emphasis on you have to go and make money and make some dollars. That's that's what values that if you're not working.

It's bad if you're not working and sitting on your butt, but that's not what biblical femininity is. She stays at home and manages an entire household. She raises kids nurtures them.

It's very busy. It's a very busy life for a woman when she fulfills her role. It's just as busy as a man's life except while she's at home tending to the kids all day and if you have more than like two kids, I mean, that's a lot of work.

And if the wife's doing that while the husband's away at work all day, they're going to come home and she's going to be wiped out and he's going to be tired and hopefully he would muster up some strength to say here. I'll take the kids for a little bit. You go take a little break, you know, and love your wife in that way.

And so I just think it's about where we put value at and so many people think oh, you're Juliana hasn't got a job yet. Wow. She's not making any dollars for her family.

That is so bad. And it's like well, wait a second. It's just because you put value there.

She's actually doing a lot for her family. Exactly, you know, and it's it's it's ridiculous when people don't put value there because it's like yeah last point putting off having kids like that means they see no value in having kids when you put off having kid to your like 35 or 40. What is that display? You think dollars is more is cooler more important more of your calling as a woman than to have a living human being that God knits together a soul in and it's going to be the next generation that impacts the entire world and continues the work of the gospel proclamation across the face of the earth.

So where's your value at? Yeah, exactly. Yeah, and the Bible says that children are a blessing. Yeah, they are arrows and a cover of the heritage, right? Like that's so you're already denying fundamentally the number one the command given to all mankind and being fruitful multiplying.

Yeah, and also you're just denying the reality that God said no, no, no, they're not an obstacle that you must overcome. Yes, that's smart. They're rather a blessing.

You must have exactly and if you have some infertility in fertility issues or you cannot find a spouse like things like that, obviously you're not like evil, right? But for most humans, this is a very clear path is a very obvious path. This is what God made us for and if you have an extraneous circumstance, where you cannot get married or you can't have kids or whatever. Right.

Well, first of all, you can't have kids you can adopt. That's an awesome ministry and you're still fulfilling the cultural mandate by doing that even though you can't maybe have can't biological kids. You're still providing biblical sound kids for the next generation.

And if you just can't physically have sorry, and if you just aren't married or can't have you know, can't find a spouse or whatever then that might come along later. And if not, God will sustain you and you can still make spiritual children by discipling people when in first in first Corinthians seven or first yeah first Corinthians seven where sometimes a man's time is split between his wife and the Lord a single person can create more spiritual offspring in a sense by being able to disciple when people grow out and evangelize in ways that maybe a husband couldn't because he has to go home or the wife has to go home that kind of thing. Right.

Okay, anything else there? No, really good point. Yeah, we're not advocating that everyone must get married. We're just simply agreeing with the scriptures that this is a norm for the for everyone.

Well, and then also I guess yes, it's a norm but then we're I guess another emphasis we're trying to put on is it's a good thing. It's a blessing from God kids are good marriage is good. Corporate America could be fine depends on how you interact with it.

If the woman says I want to enter corporate America and stay there until 40 and then maybe I'll try to have a kid. That's probably not wise. That's probably not biblical.

And we're also not advocating that from the very get-go women aren't ever to do any sort of job either. Yeah, like I mean before Juliana got pregnant. She was working at a beauty school.

Yeah, and she was cutting hair right like she was she was doing stuff. It's not that she was doing nothing. Yeah, exactly.

We're not saying that it's instantly from the get-go automatically right at the home, but the woman's focus is to be towards the home and gearing towards exactly on marriage and raising up and rearing children. Yeah, the man's goal is to be like we talked about with 1 Corinthians 11 woman was taken out of man. She's focused on him and bearing children and the man was taken out of the dirt.

His focus is on the ground to cultivate the ground and to go outside of the garden and conquer and take dominion. Exactly. Yeah, and there are some women that aspire to certain jobs that are not conducive for having kids.

For instance, if a woman wants to be a doctor not saying a woman couldn't be a doctor. It's very possible. There's no intellectual differences between men and women.

Both sexes can be just as smart as the other but here's what the difference is women are made to have kids. If you want to have kids, you cannot do residency. You cannot do med school.

You can't do all that because that's when your childbearing ages are and if you want to do all that you will not have the time. So you have to choose do I want to be a doctor or do I want to have kids because during childbearing age, that's when all that is and you will not have the time or I guess you could have the time if you want to have kids and then let them basically not be in their life and lend them to the public schools, but obviously we're not advocating for that either. That'd be foolish.

So yeah, there are some jobs that are not conducive. You need to be wise like the women need to be wise and what jobs they can do when they don't have kids for a while until they do have kids and then they're only to the home for probably the rest of their life, you know, but those earlier years like my wife or my fiance soon to be wife. Well, I just want to say that so bad.

She's my wife. I know she's a nurse, you know, she'll be working as a nurse part-time, you know, like until we start having kids and then she would stop working as a nurse and stay home. So yeah, that's what I think about that.

Okay last text. It's not just what we think. It's from Scripture.

Yeah, what we think based on the Scriptures. Right. It's not just our opinion.

Okay. Last last text that we're done. 1 Peter chapter 3 verses 1 through 7 and we end here because this is probably the most important for especially men.

Likewise wives be subject to your own husband so that even well, I guess this is really good stuff for both the men and the women because this part right here is also really good for the ladies. Likewise wives be subject to your own husband so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be one without a word by the conduct of their wives when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external.

The branding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry or the clothing you wear but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which is which in God's sight is very precious for this is how the Holy Woman who hoped in God used to adore themselves by submitting to their own husbands as Sarah Obey Abraham calling him Lord and you are her children. If you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. Likewise husbands live with your wives in an understanding way showing honor to the woman as a weaker vessel since they are heirs with you of the grace of life so that your prayers may not be hindered.

Be first for you. I know one thing so me go the verse 7 is one that really before I'm very glad that this stuck in my mind and I memorized it before getting married and this really has helped me out tremendously and already again husbands live with their wives in an understanding way showing honor to the woman as a weaker vessel since they are heirs with you of the grace of life so that your prayers may not be hindered. So we let's break this down a weaker vessel again.

This does not mean less value less dignity. But what this is clearly referring to is the vessel of the woman's body. They just cannot do physically as much as men and once both body and certain other things exactly I was going to okay.

Okay, it's bodily and we can't be we can't be Gnostics or starting we can't be ascetics and think that it's just a body nor can we be Gnostics and think this is just something spiritual but it's both spiritual and physical body and soul baby women don't go to battle physically because they're with a weaker vessels and they also you don't see a street preacher a woman one because women can't preach it to the reason they can't preach is because of the spiritual weakness that they have not in sense of their ability or culpability to be godly but in the sense of their lack of proportion to a man to be able to go out and fight those books those battles but what this really hit me with is that men as we're typically very prone to be tyrants women got to be feminists and men are tyrants and in a tyrannical fleshly nature which I am to kill every day I can instead of knowing honoring my wife and knowing okay. She just can't handle as much as me and getting upset with her when she can't do what I want her to do just because I have this unattainable expectation in my mind and I instantly get snarky with her. This is something that I do struggle with.

When I say snarky, it's not like I like yelling at my wife or anything, but sure just like kind of passive aggressive everybody can get like that and especially you. Yeah, but recognize no, she's the weaker vessel. She can't do it.

You can do your to be tender with your wife exactly loving with your wife and be gracious with her in the same way that Jesus is gracious loving and tender with us and if you don't your prayers will be hindered and God will not listen to you exactly because you're being wicked and you're being profane. Yeah, you're defining what God the creative order that God said in effect when you get mad at your wife for that for stuff like that. You're saying why did God make yes good point Bryce and that's just wickedness.

That's the same reason why it's wicked to say no, I'm actually not a boy. I'm actually a girl. That's how I been since birth the same is literally the same exact thing.

You're denying God's creation exactly. Yeah, good point. It does make me very sad to hear when people say like the first thing comes to mind.

It's like women drivers. You're guys all the time. They're like something about like this lady was driving and whatever and just because women are as aggressive driving.

So like sometimes they'll you what you'll expect them the driver to do something the guy will and it's like a lady. She's very timid and she doesn't like go when there's plenty of space kind of thing and it's like instead of getting mad like you shouldn't get mad at women for doing that because they're made differently. You should be like oh wow.

She's very safe. I bet she gets in less crashes like women statistically getting less crashes than men do because they're not as risky of drivers. So you shouldn't be like oh I hate that like why are women like this or they're so timid when they're driving and it just it frustrates me and it's like no you should honor the woman.

It makes me very frustrated and angry when people men especially get mad at when women can't do something or their whatever and it's like they God made her a different way. It's beautiful the way she's made. She's not supposed to be aggressive.

You know, she's different and you should honor that like you're saying or your prayers will be hindered. Also a big huge text for the women too that they're pure and what's to say pure conduct respectful and pure conduct and this is the way we see Sarah with Abraham and all these godly women and that's that's the example Paul brings up but all throughout the Old Testament the New Testament everything. This is how the women of old have always been the godly women.

They respect their husbands and they don't try to argue with them because obviously men are going to be aggressive and they're going to not let you have a word. You know what I mean? From what I hear I haven't been married yet, but I'm not about to be married. Apparently the cold shoulder obviously is much more terrible for a man than his wife.

I trying to argue back to him because usually the guy is just going to talk over her but when she just shuts up or whatever and she goes and gives you the cold shoulder. She won't talk to you. That's how they went over their husbands and God knows it.

It's funny me and Juliana were literally talking about this today. Really? You know a woman's method of warfare is much more ferocious than a man at least with the man, you know, they're like throwing a punch. I know.

Yeah, you never know with that. Yeah, it really is. Yeah that they may be one without a word.

And that's what women do and they're it's been yeah. Yeah, that's a ministry women have been given. So hopefully that helps you understand in the home how men women and children ought to act with each other and what God has told us.

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I hope you guys like that new intro that there should be a new outro with this too. So I'm going to read this doxology and then we'll end up here. Send me an email if you guys have any questions or anything about the Bryce and I we would love to hear from you guys.

Oh, I turned to the wrong thing. I still haven't memorized it yet. So I need to read it first Timothy Chapter 1 verse 17 to the King of the Ages a mortal and invisible the only God we honor and glory forever and ever Amen.

Holy day of glory. Jesus.

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